Sinéad Wade's infertility story begins with years of pain that doctors repeatedly dismissed - before a diagnosis of endometriosis finally gave a name to what she had been living with. What followed was an IVF journey that tested everything: her body, her marriage, her sense of who she was and what her life could look like.
This is not a book that ties everything neatly together at the end. It is a book about the trying. About the grief that has no name. About learning to advocate for yourself in a medical system that doesn't always listen to women. And about finding a way to keep going when the road keeps changing beneath your feet.
Inconceivable is for anyone navigating infertility support, anyone trying to conceive against the odds, or anyone who has ever felt invisible in their own healthcare journey. It is a book that also recounts the difficult process of intercountry adoption. It is the book so many women have been waiting for - and the one Sinéad needed and couldn't find when she was in the middle of it.
Inconceivable is a raw, honest and ultimately hopeful infertility memoir about what it means to want something with your whole self and be told, again and again, that it might not happen.
About the book
The emotional reality of infertility and IVF - what it actually feels like, not just what it looks like from the outside
Navigating endometriosis: fighting for a diagnosis, understanding the condition, and living with it day to day
How to advocate for yourself when doctors dismiss your pain
The impact of infertility on relationships, identity and mental health
Coping with the uncertainty, grief and loneliness that fertility struggles bring
How to keep going when you don't know how the story ends
Finding solidarity, community and hope in the hardest chapter of your life
What this book explores
Inconceivable moves through the full arc of the journey - from the first signs that something was wrong, to the years of trying, to the aftermath of everything that changed along the way.
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The Hammer Blow: a marriage ending and a story beginning
Re-Beginnings: first love, the army years and finding their way back
Germany: the trip that should never have happened
Back Together: choosing each other a second time
Waiting Rooms: entering the world of fertility treatment
Ode to Ruby: the love that arrived exactly when it was needed
In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF): the process, the hope and the heartbreak
Adoption: a door that opened and then slowly closed
NaPro: finding a doctor who finally listened
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Surgeries and Treatments: the long road through endometriosis
The Ageing Sitcom: seven years in and still trying
A Simple Antibiotic: the missing piece of the puzzle
2013 Was Going to Be Our Year: miscarriage and the end of the road
Touchdown to Reality: coming home to a different life
My Marriage Was Over: betrayal, breakdown and letting go
Closure: ending a marriage with dignity
A Reawakening: love arriving when it was least expected
A Wedding and an Annulment: the final curveball
I am, quite simply, a mother in every sense of the word, but I am a mother without her baby.
Inconceivable, Sinéad Wade
You are trying to conceive and the journey is harder and lonelier than you expected
You are going through IVF and struggling to find words for what it feels like
You have endometriosis - or you are still fighting to find out why you are in pain
You have experienced medical gaslighting and stopped trusting your own instincts
Your relationship has been tested or broken by infertility or pregnancy loss
You have been carrying grief that nobody around you quite understands
You just need to know that someone else has been through it - and is still here
This book is for you if...
what readers are saying
- KIMBERLEY
I've recommended this book to every woman I know. Sinead's story is devastating and hopeful in equal measure, an extraordinary debut.
- NORA
From this page turner, the Author’s mantra pours out of each chapter “NEVER EVER EVER GIVE UP”. it’s a story which brings many emotions from joy to sadness to heartbreak to faith and hope and a will of steel. Always keeping focussed on her dearest wish one day to hold her baby in her arms while always keeping the love for life deep in her heart.
- LIBERTY
I couldn’t put Inconceivable down, it completely broke me and built me up in the best way. Sinead writes with such heart and honesty that you feel every high and low alongside her. Truly beautiful, emotional and full of hope.
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